Showing posts with label kindness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label kindness. Show all posts

Thursday, June 23, 2016

My husband, the legacy of my father, and a small kindness

NASA image, used under cc license
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This is a small story of a kind act.

One done with no expectation of reward or notice.

One done because we are all on this blue marble spinning in the void together and not one of us will get out of here alive.

One that is emblematic of the person my husband is, and how he respects and honors the legacy of his father-in-law.


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My father was a wise man. This is not to say a formally learned one; he had only a high school education. But he was a curious man, an observant man, a practical man. He taught me many lessons as I was growing up and many of them (all?) had to do with humility and gratitude. He might not have categorized them as such, but from my vantage point in adulthood, I do.

He taught me the CEO and the janitor were worthy of the same respect. That 'if your job was digging ditches, then you dig the best damned ditches you know how to dig.' (Kind of a tongue twister!) And he always tipped generously, saying 'it won't make them rich, it won't make you poor, and it's the right thing to do.'

The right thing to do. That's something he taught me well and not just through his words.

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So two nights ago, my husband came home after a long day at work followed by an equally long meeting. He seemed subdued - more than would be explained by the fatigue and the stresses of the day. I waited and it wasn't long before he told me about his evening.

He was walking through Boston to get to the venue when he walked by a homeless man on the sidewalk. The man was sober and clean; just sitting quietly asking for spare change.

My husband usually keeps change in his pocket, but tonight he had none. He stopped anyway. He opened his wallet, looking for a dollar bill for the man. He had no singles. He drew out a $5.00 bill and handed it to the man.

The man thanked him, then looked at the bill. He paused, looked again. Then he looked up at my husband and thanked him again, quietly, saying "Now I can eat dinner."

My husband reached out to shake the man's hand and wished him well.

They both had tears in their eyes.

My husband teared up again in telling me.

He said, "I heard your father's voice in my head saying 'It won't make them rich, it won't make you poor, and it's the right thing to do.'" 

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I tell this here not to embarrass my husband (though I know it does, even as he told me I could relay the story), nor for any kind of praise on his behalf, but to highlight a moment, a small kindness that meant so much more than that to two humans struggling to hold on as the planet whirls through the darkness. 




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Friday, April 01, 2016

Things that feed my soul

Neil getting some puppy-love: dogspotting in Iceland

There is so much in the world to weigh down even the lightest of spirits, so today I thought I would do a 'my favorite things' roundup.

Dogspotting

My younger son introduced me to this competition/activity/lifestyle. Dogspotting is the practice of keeping track of your encounters with dogs in the wild. There are rules. Certain kinds of 'spots' get certain numbers of points. You can lose points, too, if a dog is looking at you with a knowing smile and a wink, for example. It's a mix of the utterly serious and the totally silly and I love it. I check the FB group every day for the photos other dogspotters post. I rarely post photos of my own, but they seem to embrace lazy spotters like me.


I get by with a little help from my friends



This lovely quilt arrived in the mail today - a gift from a wonderful friend, talented writer, and creative quilter, Lynn Viehl.

It was a surprise and when I opened the box, I teared up. She knows I've been dealing with some difficult things in my personal life and the caring and kindness of this gift nearly unraveled me. In a good way. I feel wrapped in her concern and her love.

I am blessed with an amazing community of friends, near and far, with whom I can celebrate and commiserate. They feed my soul.

Music Hath Charms

Over the past few weeks, I have become enamored of/obsessed with the music of Hamilton. I have listened to the entire show more times than I can count and find more and more to love with each repetition. I am a serial monogamist when it comes to music: I'll listen to something constantly for weeks or months until the whole of it is embedded in my mind and move to something else.

I'm definitely still in my Hamilton phase and I'm not sure it's going to go away anytime soon. There's almost always some kind of soundtrack in my mind and music has always spoken to me.

What are some other of my favorite things?

Good coffee
Dark Chocolate
Thunderstorms
A starry sky
A bad pun
Belly laughs
A fireplace
Warming my ice-cold feet against my husband at night
Playing with clay
Cooking for friends

Your turn!

What feeds your soul when everything seems dark?




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Saturday, December 05, 2015

Acts of Kindness


Maybe it was 6 months ago, could have been even longer. But one early evening, our dogs started to go all 'rambo' on our front door. I went to take a look at what was setting them off and saw a black lab cavorting on our front lawn.

He was as happy as you please and all he wanted was to play with our dogs. But my Jack Russell mix isn't well behaved with other dogs, and I didn't want to risk letting my lab/hound mix out without a leash, so I went out to try to snag the pup.

He would have none of it and would dash away when I got anywhere near him. He had broken away from his owner and she was in her car just outside the house trying to get Duncan the Lab to listen to her.

He would have none of that, either!

At that point, my husband got home and between the three of us - Duncan's human and me and my hubby, we triangulated Duncan, got him interested in what my dogs consider the 'crack' of dog treats, and were able to snag his collar.

Dog and person were effusive in their thanks. We got to give Duncan pats, scritches, and more treats and that was that.


A few moments ago, the dogs did their 'barbarians at the gate' thing. At the front door was Duncan's human, with chocolate in hand.

 

In case you can't make out the handwriting, this is what her note said:

Hi -

I don't know your names, but have never forgotten your kindness in helping me lure my recalcitrant Black Lab back into my car. 


Your use of the crack of dog treats was charming too!

So, in thanks, here is a box if the crack of caramels! (Please bear in mind that I know nothing about you, aside from your kindness, so if you hate caramels [or if you're dentists], please excuse my mistake. . . )

Thank you again.
 Duncan's person - you are very welcome! Thank you for making my day such a bright one. And, yes, chocolate is my crack. ;)




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