tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911862.post6638689332925376986..comments2023-12-15T08:48:28.098-05:00Comments on Once in a Blue Muse: When you get what you wantLisa Cohenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07530826748768737972noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911862.post-7057676832973771542010-07-05T22:24:10.740-04:002010-07-05T22:24:10.740-04:00Yeah--the whole 'you did what' is counterp...Yeah--the whole 'you did what' is counterproductive to keeping the lines of communication open.<br /><br />My rules are basically nothing permanent while they are under my roof. So no body art or piercings. Hair? I can live with bizarre hairstyles. Clothes? I can shake my head and move on.<br /><br />Nice to know I have kindred parenting souls out there. :)Lisa Cohenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07530826748768737972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911862.post-20869517332112380402010-07-04T09:38:40.620-04:002010-07-04T09:38:40.620-04:00My kids are all grown, and I still wonder what'...My kids are all grown, and I still wonder what's going on...though I never, never tell them.<br /><br />My operating rule was that as long as their grades were good, they did their chores and kept our communication lines wide open, they could dress any way they wanted. It worked, sort of. First, I had to take the phrase "You did what?" out of my vocabulary so that the mistakes made by young adventures could be talked about and my experience could be accessed.<br /><br />Second, I silently suffered through various hair colors, pants with holes, strange and fearsome t-shirts, and hairstyles reminiscent of Native Americans. Fortunately my daughter was shy, so over-exposure was never an issue.<br /><br />It worked. They are all people I am proud to know.SusanRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00053275454367771706noreply@blogger.com